What I do when I feel fear
Mar 25, 2021
What I do when I feel fear...
I personify it as a scared little child inside.
I don't let it run the show, it doesn't have the capacity (or the need).
I connect in with my power, my vastness, my soul, MY BREATH...
then I turn toward it, bringing it into a big hug.
No harm can come from me allowing it to be heard and held... plus, it is valid.
I empathise with it (makes a lot of sense why its here and bringing the stories it does).
I let it know I won't abandon it, and when I feel that sink in, I engage with it. I dance with it into a place of new possibilities.
I'll let you in on a conversation I had with fear of responsibility this morning-
Hi little one, I hear you, I love you, I am here for you, I care for you.
I acknowledge being the the oldest of 4 sisters, responsibilities did sometimes suck. I didn't deal with them well all the time, others didn't want me to have them sometimes.
Responsibility can be lonely and scary, like 'who's got me?'. The pressure can be heavy. The message of failure can be painful. The desire to let go and have others take control can be pretty strong.
And checking out isn't bad, its a strategy you've used to look after me, I won't take any strategy away from you.
Let's look together, is it still serving... like really? Is it actually helping?
mmmm I don't know, maybe not.
You matter to me and you are wise, you know why you're here. Let's find a more effective strategy to replace it.
So dear child, what really matters to you? What's important to you?
mmmmm... that I'm taken care of, that I'm not alone, that others get me and want to be there with me.
That I'm not up above, holding responsibility for what isn't mine. That I'm down there with others, being looked after too.
I get all that, its so valid.
Would it help if I share more in the spaces of support I feel safe in?
To share more and ask for more?
To share more and ask for more?
ah, yes it would.
Done.
We can step into responsibility can't we little one?
We have what it takes.
Yeah, I do believe we can.
